It’s Time To Change How You Think Of Yourself

I have spent so much of my life thinking that it was the norm to hate yourself/be embarrassed of who you are and those weird things that make me.

Growing up we used to literally say about people ‘ugh she’s awful she just loves herself too much’ like it was the worst thing in the world. I do understand it and it wasn’t like we were saying people should hate themselves, it was more of a way of saying people were vain but anyway my point is society literally likes to push you down and make you feel bad about saying ‘I like myself’. There’s so much in the world designed to make us feel shitty or feel like we need to change ourselves in some way. Social media can play a massive part in making us feel like we need to change or we’re not good enough. There is a constant stream of perfection across social media but we need to remember that this is just the side they’ve decided to share online. “The reason we struggle with insecurity is because we compare our behind-the-scenes with everyone else’s highlight reel”. I’ve been thinking about this quote a lot because it’s so true.

I recently realised how important it is to be your own cheerleader. It’s always going to be hard to like yourself and stay cheery some days but realising how great you are and what you have to offer opens so many doors.

I spent so much time being negative about myself and it just made things so much worse. Obviously i’m not trying to say we can have never have bad days or feel down on ourselves but I think making a conscious effort to see the good in ourselves is so important. Realising I am a good person with good things to offer the world helped me view myself completely differently.

I feel down on myself a lot and constantly think how I’m not where I want to be but maybe it doesn’t matter. The only way is up and the only way to get there is hard work and determination. I need to throw away the idea that I need to reach a certain point by a certain time and just focus on where I want to go. Which is why being positive and supporting yourself is going to help so much. Like yeah you may work your ass off and still fail but every failure is a life lesson and something that could help you in the future.

If you take a step back and look at it differently then often you can see a different side to things.

There is so much power in loving yourself. I’ve started feeling more confident in myself and letting myself be happy despite little things I would like to change about myself. When I have my favourite pair of jeans on or I really like my make up for the day I can feel so powerful like I can conquer the world. It may sound frivolous to some people but these little things can actually mean so much and give me the boost of confidence I need.

Some days are harder than others but sometime just ‘fake it ’till you make it’. For me anyway I think sometimes my fake confidence can turn into real. I didn’t feel at all confident with my blog when I first started it but I’m getting there. I started taking more risks like starting my blog and wearing make up that’s a little ‘out there’. They sound like little things but they’ve helped grow my confidence and help me feel more confident and care less what others think about me.

Taking little steps is always the way forward and supporting yourself first and foremost is super important. You’re the only person who’s 100% always going to be there for you.

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  1. April 14, 2018 / 10:46 am

    This is such an important thing to talk about, love this so much gal xx

    • Grace
      April 14, 2018 / 11:08 am

      Thanks so much babes, honestly didn’t even know whether to post it at first but glad i did xx

  2. April 14, 2018 / 2:19 pm

    Great post…social media does indeed pit you against everyone’s “highlight reel” – I always think about how for all other species on earth, survival is the only thing that matters, but we’ve evolved to the point where survival is just one of the things we focus on, because we have time to let all the other stuff in…we are victims of our own success!

    • Grace
      April 15, 2018 / 10:31 am

      Thank you, I’m glad you enjoyed. Was something I’ve been thinking about a lot recently. It is so weird that we have so much other stuff that we become obsessed with, you’re so right!

  3. Bex
    April 14, 2018 / 4:35 pm

    Love this real and thoughtful post. To paraphrase someone close to us…we don’t see ourselves as other people see us. Perhaps our internal lens is more critical. I see you as smart, brave, kind, honest, and beautiful ❤❤❤

    • Grace
      April 15, 2018 / 10:35 am

      Thank you Bex. Have been thinking about this a lot before I wrote it. That is so true! I think it definitely it is, we can be so hard on ourselves sometimes. Thank you, that means so much ❤️❤️❤️

  4. Lottie
    April 15, 2018 / 8:49 pm

    Absolutely loved this post! It gives you a lot to think about and realise that you are a strong independent woman! And can totally kick ass!!! Xxx

    • Grace
      April 16, 2018 / 3:34 pm

      Thank you so much lovely! Glad you enjoyed it and really appreciate you giving it a read! Thank you xxx

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